The Cause of most Women’s being in Hell?

Some women are extremely disobedient and ungrateful to
their husbands. If they are offended even slightly, they forget
all the previous kindnesses and favours and start cursing their
husbands. Those women who often curse and annoy their
husbands should repent immediately; once the Prophet of
Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam was going to the Eid-Gah on Eid day. He
sallallahu alaihi wasallam passed by some women and said, “Oh women!
Give charity as I have seen most of you in the Hell.” The
women asked, “Ya Rasool-Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallamL! What is the
reason for this?” The Prophet of Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam
replied, “You often curse and are ungrateful to your husbands.”
(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 304, V1, P123, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

How shall we save our family members from Hell?

It is stated in Khazain-ul-Irfaan with regard to the forgoing
verse, “(save yourselves and your families from the fire of Hell)
by obeying Allah and His beloved Prophetsallallahu alaihi wasallam,
performing worship, refraining from sins, guiding your families
towards goodness and forbidding them from evils and by
teaching them knowledge & etiquettes.”

Three types of People are deprived of Heaven

Parents and the (blood relatives) deserve our polite
behaviour more than every one else in society but unfortunately,
a little attention is paid to this matter. Some people look very
humble and well-mannered in general public but they mistreat
their family-members. Drawing the attention of such people, I
would mention the Hadith narrated by Sayyiduna Abdullah
ibn Umar radi allahu anhu. Therefore, the beloved of Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam
said, “Three people will not enter the Heaven: the one
who distresses his parents, the Dayyuth (TE 3 ) and the woman
who adopts masculine style.” (Majma’uz Zawaaid, Hadith 13431, V8,
P270, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

Woman wearing Masculine Clothes is deprived of Heaven

It is stated in a Hadith that the woman who adopts masculine
styles will be deprived of Heaven. The woman who wears
masculine clothes, shoes, or has a masculine hairstyle also deserves
the same punishment. Often, this issue is not considered when
dressing children. (Allah forbid) sometimes, the boys are
made to wear the dress of girls making them look like girls and
similarly, girls are made to wear shirts & trousers along with a
hat making them look like boys. It is a sin to get your
daughters wear boyish dress or masculine hairstyle. Henna can
be applied on the palms and feet of the girls only, applying
henna on the hands or feet of boys is a sin. (Raddul-muhtar v9,
p522, Dar-ul-kutubul Ilmiyya Beirut)
Do not dress your children in clothes which have pictures of
living things on them. Do not apply nail polish on children's
nails and the children’s mother should never also do so because
wudu & ghusl will not be complete.

Respect of the elder brother

Along with parents, other close relatives such as brothers and
sisters should also be respected. After the father, the grandfather
and elder brother are closer as the elder brother is like the
father. The Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said, “The right of
an elder brother upon his younger brother is like the right
which a father has upon his children.” (Shu’ubul-Imaan, Hadith
7929, V6, P210, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

Respect of Relatives

All relatives should be treated nicely. Sayyiduna Aasim radi allahu anhu
narrates that the Holy Prophet of Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam said,
“Whoever wants a long life, increase in his sustenance and
protection from bad death, should fear Allah and treat his
relatives politely.” (Mustadrak, Hadith 7280, V4, P97, Dar-ul-Kutubul
Ilmiyyah Beirut)
The beloved of Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam said, “The one who
breaks relations will not enter the Heaven.” (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith
5984, V7, P95, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

Reconcile with Relatives

Dear Islamic Brothers! The people who break relations with
their relatives on trivial matters should learn a lesson from the
foregoing narration. Such people should approach their relatives
and offer reconciliation themselves with humility even if the
relatives are at fault for the quarrel. However, if there is a Shari’
reason preventing you from reconciliation with them, so you
should refrain from doing so. With the blessings of travelling
in the Madani Qafilas every month, filling in the Madani
In’aamaat card and handing it in to the relevant responsible
Islamic brother at the end of every Islamic month,
for the sake of the Beloved sallallahu alaihi wasallam , you will get such
spirit of respecting Muslims in your heart that all of your
differences and quarrels with your family & relatives will be
settled andthey will also join the Madani environment
of Dawat-e-Islami.

Created from a Crooked Rib

A husband should treat his wife nicely and deal with her wisely.
Our Holy Prophetsallallahu alaihi wasallam  said, “Woman has been
created from a rib and you cannot straighten her. If you wish
to get benefit from her, you can do so with her crookedness. If
you try to straighten her, you will break her and breaking a
woman means divorcing her.” (Sahih Muslim, V1, P475, Afghanistan)

The Excellence of Gentleness towards Wife

We therefore realise that some of her habits will be displeasing,
but the husband should always remain patient and tolerant.
The Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said, “Amongst the true
believers is he who possesses a nice character and is the most
gentle with his wife.” (Jami’ Tirmizi, Hadith 2621, V4, P278, Dar-ul-
Fikr Beirut)

Do not leave the home of even a Cruel Husband

Those women who frequently fall out with their husbands over
small matters and go to their parent’s home should listen
attentively and try to act upon the following blessed Hadith
with heart and soul. The Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said,
“And (the wife) must not leave the house of her (husband)
without his permission. If she does so, until she does not
repent, Allah and His (innocent) angels send curse upon
her.” Someone asked, “Even if the husband is cruel?” The Holy
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam replied, “Even if he is cruel.” (Kanzul-
Ummal, Hadith 44801, V16, P114, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

Rights of the Husband

The wife should also treat her husband in a good manner. The
Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said, “I swear by the One under
Whose Omnipotence my life is, if there are wounds, in the
husband's body from foot to head, from which pus and blood
flow, and the woman licks them, still she has not fulfilled the
husband’s rights.” (Musnad Imaam Ahmad, Hadith 12614, V4, P318,
Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut)

The Rights of Neighbours

Dear Islamic Brothers! Everyone should treat their neighbours
nicely and respectfully unless there is a valid Shari’ reason.
Once, a person came in the presence of the Holy Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam and asked, “Ya Rasool-Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam !
How will I know if I have done something right or wrong?”
The Respect of a Muslim
The Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam replied, “When you hear
your neighbours saying that you have performed something
right, indeed you have performed something right and when
you hear them saying that you have committed something
wrong, indeed you have committed something wrong.” (Sunan
Ibn-e-Maja, Hadith 4223, V4, P479, Dar-ul-Ma’rifa Beirut)

Offer Your Seat to Somebody Else

If there is shortage of seats during a bus or train journey, those people sitting should not remain sitting and those people standing should not remain standing for the whole journey. Everyone should take turns to sit and thus earn reward of facing a difficulty. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Mas’ood  radi allahu anhu says that there was only one camel for three persons in the battle of Badr, hence, Sayyiduna Abu Lubaba and Sayyiduna The Respect of a Muslim Ali radi allahu anhu were with the camel of the Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam  Both say that when it was the turn of the Prophet  sallallahu alaihi wasallam to walk, both of us would request the Prophet  sallallahu alaihi wasallam to remain seated and that we will walk in lieu of him. The Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam replied, “You are not stronger than me and I am not indifferent to reward.” (i.e. I also need reward so why should I not walk!)
(Sharh-us-Sunnah, Hadith 2680, V5, P566, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

Don’t hurt anyone’s feelings

Dear Islamic Brothers! The Muslim's respect demands us to
fulfil the rights of every Muslim at any cost. We must not hurt
the feelings of any Muslim without a Shari’ reason. Our blessed
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam never hurt the feelings of any Muslim.
He sallallahu alaihi wasallam never teased anyone, never made a joke of
anybody, never pushed anybody away and never insulted anyone.
Instead, he sallallahu alaihi wasallam embraced every one.